Aside from being perfect all the time……I too get stressed and seriously over-whelmed. Sometimes it’s for something big and apparently “justified”. In these moments I’m more kind to myself with those emotions. Other times it’s for something that feels less “allowed”. In those moments, I am an asshole to myself.
When we feel as though “we are not allowed” to feel our emotions, those emotions can see far more uncomfortable than intented.
In my own experience and with my clients, and in research, one answer to emotional suffering is in giving oursevles permission to feel what we are not letting oursevles feel.
Trying not to feel the feels, judging them, looking for someone else to justify them… only makes emotional suffering worse.
Each time that I am willing to make room for discomfort that, the less likely that discomfort will lead to unnecessary suffering.
It actually really, truly is okay not to be okay. And this time I’m not saying that from ‘research Taylor’, or the version of Taylor who supports others in this magnificent mess we call life, but from the Taylor who also struggles with what to do with her emotions sometimes too…
Give yourself permission to feel, minus the stories, expectations, and all the judgement you impose on yourself. You’ll quickly realise that many of your emotions, although very darn uncomfortable, are not “wrong”.
In fact, they’re often inevitable and yes, also really quite reasonable but no where near as uncomfortable as the emotions that can follow from not letting yourself feel what you need to feel in the first place.
All the feels from your mate,
Taylor.
