Values driven behaviour is the essence of mental toughness.
It’s easy to know you want, but how many of you get stuck in the sticky layers between knowing what it is you want, and actually getting it?
This often happens when we get caught up in our emotions and our thoughts, and lose touch of our values.
We call this emotion-driven behaviour.
Emotion driven behaviour is when we behave based on how we’re feeling in a moment to satisfy our need for short term comfort at the cost that which will serve us long term.
When we are emotion driven, we struggle to adapt to life’s demands and reach our goals. Here, ideas of who we want to be and the life we live exist as nothing more than ideas.
When you commit to acting in alignment with your values (values-driven behaviour), rather than your emotions (emotion-driven behaviour) life starts to work FOR you, not against - you start to live out your desires and create the life you want to lead.
HOWEVER, there’s a catch.
Aligning with your values can be pretty damn uncomfortable, hence why we are more often than not, driven by how we are feeling rather than what’s important to us.
For example, my emotions may tell me to avoid something that’s hard so I don’t have to deal with being rejected, failing and ultimately, hurting. This emotion driven behaviour makes life easier and comfortable in that moment - short term.
Long term, nothing has changed and I’m still light years away from where I want to be and who I want to be.
Now I feel even more lost, anxious and distressed.
Can you see how this cycle of emotion-driven behaviour can lead to unnecessary suffering?